Posted on May 16, 2017
Hi, gals! When you fall, you fall hard; sometimes, though, things don’t work out, and the harder you fall, the harder it hurts. What do you do then? You put on your big girl panties and deal with it, right? Cry to your gal pals, lick your wounds, and eat some well-deserved ice cream.
Did you know, though, that some people are already preparing for a relationship fallout even while they’re still the said relationship? Talk about expecting the worst. This new relationship no-no is called cushioning, and it’s right up there with ghosting on the level of horrible things to do.
Cushioning is a new dating term that refers to how a person in a relationship still flirts with other people as a backup; in the event that their current relationship falls apart, they have another person ready to “cushion” their fall.
Many people cushion for different reasons. It could be due to two people not being on the same level; one party wants to settle down while the other, the cushioner, wants to keep it casual. Some like the comfort that back-up plans give them, easing the pressure on their current relationship. Others like using cushions as a means of “practicing” for their current relationship, letting off steam there as a channel so it doesn’t affect the main party.
No matter what reason you have for cushioning, we can all agree that it’s pretty wrong. There is no valid reason to engage in cushioning. The cushioner is making things way too unfair for the other party. If you’re no longer interested in someone, let them go so they can move on with their lives. If you’re still interested but find yourself uncertain, do the thing that adults normally do and talk about your thoughts and feelings with the other party. Many relationship issues can be resolved by effective communication, so give that a shot instead of cushioning – which, we can agree, looks a lot like cheating.
What do you think of cushioning, gals? Have you ever cushioned, or been a cushion? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below or on Facebook!